About love being blind and soulmates...

All of us have at somepoint of time or other heard "Love is blind"....(blah blah) and that "I have at last found my soul mate"... I wonder whether people actually think before saying this, or is it one of those statements which are made just coz they sound good? I think more often than not it's the latter.

Soulmate, a term derived from essentially two different words, soul and mate. Soul which is immaterial part of a person or the actuating cause of an individual life. And mate which in very simple terms means one of a matched pair. Far too often for my liking these words are linked together by people without really understanding what they mean when they are combined. Most of us assume that we can and should (for moral reasons) have only one soulmate. I disagree. No I am not talking about open relationships (and just a side note in a open relationship, there essentially is no soulmate). So let me explain...

Often people talk about 'the one'... is it true that we can only have one kindred spirit in our lifetime? Or is it possible to have a couple of them? ( for someone like me a couple also sounds less). We often hear about the 'perfect one'...the one who will stand by you in this otherwise imperfect world (at least we seem to have made peace with the fact that we dont live in utopia...good start eh??).

Why do we keep trying to find a reason for everything? Is it b'coz it's human nature to find a cause and effect relationship, or is it b'coz it may relieve us of tension, perhaps guilt? Why do we think about the relationship that didn't work, comtemplate that it still feels unfinished, empty? Why do we feel that "oh I thought that person was my soulmate?". Perhaps our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them what would shape our lives? What happens to love when relationships are finished? Does that fade away too? Perhaps if we never veered off the course, we would never fall in love or be who we are. After all seasons change. So do cities. People come in our lives and sadly people go. But it's comforting to know that the ones you love and care about are close in your heart and are only a phonecall away...or perhaps a plane ride away.

Why can't we look into our own circle of friends and be our own soulmates, to love, to look after, to guide and to inspire? Why does it always have to be that stranger, who have to come and rescue you? I consider my friends to be my soulmates, the same friends who have seen me grow, fall, and pick myself up again, to continue embarking on the journey that is life. There are so many soulmates in my life...or are we just confusing the idea of being in love with somebody as the soulmate?

Sure I like to believe in the crazy romantic idea of sipping a cup of coffee with someone into the sunset. And if she is 'the one' as people say, then she can find ways of being my alter ego. But to be my soulmate, she's got to try a lot harder!

Ahem..ok the second part now about love being blind?? If love indeed is blind....then why is Victorias Secret so damn popular??? Answer that, then we will talk more about love being blind.